Christianity and religion

Why is it that we will allow ourselves to be pressured into compromise of our position or belief by religious leadership but we preach against exactly the same thing in secular leadership? If the secular boss asked a man to compromise his position on some doctrine, we would encourage the man to stand his ground and not give in. But in a church context, if the pastor asks a man publicly to do something which he does not agree with, the member would be chastised and looked down upon for standing his ground. We treat pastors like Catholics treat the pope. He is to be above question. If he, spur of the moment, requires you to do something, even something which violates your conscious and conviction, you are expected to comply. The consequences for even hesitating or expressing doubt are serious; they will include ridicule and mockery most likely. Certainly we are to obey those who have the rule over us and we are to follow their faith. But what when obeying them contradicts what we have received from the Lord, from the scripture, from the Holy Ghost? What happens when "obey them that have the rule over you" intersects with "we ought to obey God rather than man"? We should obey God, for sure. And should some say, "Well, you obey God in this case by obeying man," then we would be compelled to present him some of the more dire circumstances in which that might be abused (such as when Gary Maxwell told another man's wife to commit adultery with him). No, I have to answer to God at the end of this life and frequently during it. The healthy balance here is (GASP!) realizing that even good men, well-intentioned men, men who love God, still make mistakes, are still prone to err, and can still be corrupted by authority. And the more vehemently they deny it and the more strenuously they demand compliance and insist on their rightness, the more they harm their own cause and bring their character into question.